I always knew that the day I found out I was pregnant I won’t waste a minute to educate myself. To carry a child is a deep mystical experience. I wanted to make sure that I made the right choices not just for myself but also for this new human being.
I found myself in the library the first week. As I was ‘vegan’ I needed to know firstly what I should eat. The book I read was called ‘The Everything Vegan Pregnancy Book’ by Reed Mangels.
As the book gave me a detailed view on what my body needed at what stage, I decided not to eat soy (as most soy is GMO, which is not natural for human consumption), which she indeed recommends. I was more on a healthy plant based lifestyle rather than a traditional vegan diet.
The second book I borrowed from the library at the time was called ‘The Natural Baby’ by Samantha Quinn.
While I was reading these books I came across a home birth. I immediately thought “Wow! This is amazing!”. I hate hospitals and knowing that home birth was a possibility, was a huge relief for me. I then said to myself, “Ok, I need to know everything.”
I further increased my knowledge by managing to read ‘The Mindful Mother’ by Naomi Chunilal and ‘The Homebirth Handbook’ by Annie Francis.
At 3 months pregnant, I left my job which enabled me to invest more time in reading, watching documentaries and speaking to people with positive birth experiences. I avoided bad stories at all costs. For some reason, when I told people about the idea of a ‘home birth’, they tend to share their fears and concerns. These reactions pushed me even more to do my own thing and prove them wrong but additionally, it also motivated me to continuously educate myself. I really wanted to make sure I knew all I needed to know.
I went on to read books such as ‘Childbirth Without Fear’ by Grantly Dick-Read which I highly recommend, ‘Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth’ and ‘Spiritual Midwifery’ by Ina May Gaskin.
I forgot to mention that in the process of educating myself, I needed to educate my partner. When I first told him I wanted a home birth, he was speechless. However, it didn’t take long to convince him. The other thing that shocked him was when I told him I didn’t want to have any scans*. After taking time out to do his own research, he was with me on this one too. Deep inside I thought: ”Ok, this is it, he knows it all now and is on the same boat as me. I can happily look after myself and plan my dream birth.” However this wasn’t all (laughing to myself). I came across the opportunity to have a lotus birth. I didn’t need to look into it too much, I already knew that this is what I wanted to do. It seemed so natural to me. My lovely partner was sceptical at first but the more I told him about it and the benefits, the more he agreed to do it.
At around 7 months pregnant, we both felt pretty confident about birth. However, we still decided to go on a hypno-birthing course. It was another fantastic decision we both made. The course we did was with Linda Wardlaw who is an amazing woman. I highly recommend her if you are from Milton Keynes area.
I can’t tell you enough how much the course benefited me. Linda especially assured me that what I was doing was best for me and my baby.
I felt so empowered and excited, although I never stopped reading. Books I also read were: ‘Men, Love & Birth’ by Mark Harris, in the hope I could give my partner some tips’; ‘Placenta – The Forgotten Chakra’ by Robin Lim (I love this book); ‘The Birthkeepers’ by Veronica Sophie Robinson (one of my favourites); ‘The First Forty Days’ by Heng Ou and ‘The Womenly Art Of Breastfeeding’ by Diane Wiessinger.
I always thought that hospitals were for ill people and pregnancy isn’t an illness… so if you feel the same way, empower yourself with knowledge. Knowledge is power!!!
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