Apart from educating yourself and consuming a healthy diet, there are several steps you can adopt to increase the likelihood of a positive birth experience.
A woman’s state of mind can affect the course of her labour. If she doesn’t feel mature or ready enough to care for her baby, she may unconsciously prevent her body from pushing her baby out.
If a woman feels frightened, discouraged, powerless, or rushed, the labour can naturally become more difficult.
When a woman is in labour, she needs to feel in control, supported and able to do whatever she needs to control the pain and relax. She should be able to labour and push her baby out in positive any position she chooses.
If you consider planning a hospital birth, you should enquire about hospital policies and explain your wishes well in advance of your due date.
You can also write a birth plan, where you can further state what will contribute to a positive birth experience for you.
Show this to your doctor or midwife before the birth and discuss it with them. It is obviously more convenient and less risky for medical personnel to maintain routine procedures than to try new innovations.
So if you cannot agree with your doctor, it is worth looking for a different doctor or hospital, or even considering a home birth.
You don’t want to risk having disagreeable surprises when you are in labour.
If you had a difficult birth, or if it didn’t go quite as planned, there is no reason to feel guilty.
You certainly did your best at that moment. If someone made you powerless, angry, or frightened, you will definitely benefit from talking about it with someone.
You may also need to cry or express it through different emotions. It is important to allow yourself to release what doesn’t serve you.
You can read my birth story and find out what I was disappointed at here. It took me a while to reconcile with the situation and now I know I did the best I could.